There’s so many times where I have found myself in hopeless situations. There are so many times that I wanted to just say forget it and walk away. I just wanted to quit and never look back.
As I have grown older and maybe a little wiser, I have come to realize that every situation is not hopeless and all is not lost. In some of those situations, I was the problem. Things didn't go as I planned or the way I wanted and in my mind, that made the situation hopeless.
Now if I find myself in my feelings feeling some type of way, I step back and check myself. I ask myself some of the following questions...
1. What's the situation and what's the outcome? Meaning...is the situation and or outcome bigger than me? If it is (and usually it is) I have to put my big girl panties, get out of my feelings and move forward. Every outcome is not always about me.
2. Am I being a Negative Nelly? Do I have a poor attitude because I'm afraid of changing the norm? Sometimes I have to make myself step outside of my comfort zone and get a little uncomfortable. This is where I push myself harder and I usually learn a valuable lesson in life. This is what makes me stronger.
3. Am I not considering all the options? Usually, there's more than one option to solve a problem. The question is...am I looking at all options or just one? Oprah Winfrey, Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerburg and President Obama didn't get to where they are because of closed minds. They consider every option before they make decisions. It may not always be the right decision but they make one and they didn't give up.
4. Am I just being lazy because I don't want to do it or I overcommitted? Sometimes the answer is yes and yes. I am being lazy and I did overcommit. Now what? This is where I have to just get over myself and suck it up and speak life into me. Lazy is not who I am and I will make this happen. And if I overcommitted...I rearrange my schedule and make it work. It's my fault so I fix it.
My mom always says, "The truth hurts.... doesn’t it?" Sometimes a situation is not always hopeless. Sometimes we just have to face the facts and look at the truth.
Always remember: The more you know; the more you learn! Make sure you learn something in every situation! Have a wonderful week! MUAH